Comments on: For Sale

By: Teresa

Teresa — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 19:52:12 +0000

yikes! Is it really that bad? I don’t have kids (yet) and to be honest I’m on the fence. Reading parents blogs is a favourite pasttime of mine, but I have to admit, this one really scared me. I fail to see any humour in it but I know you meant it that way, so I’m assuming, hoping that parenthood isn’t that bad.

By: lisa

lisa — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 03:08:38 +0000

Oh I should add that the retort about “you don’t deserve to understand” was also in pretty poor form…

By: lisa

lisa — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 03:07:06 +0000

Christine, while I am childfree and agree with you in many ways, you are commenting on a blog post written by a parent. It isn’t really fair to come here and write a post that was frankly a little rude (“stop whining”). To then not expect someone else to respond in a similar vein is silly.

You don’t sign a “no complaining allowed” contract when you have a child. This is a group of like minded people venting about frustrations in their life and taking a moment to laugh at themselves – they don’t need self righteous posts by childfree people about how they should quit whining.

In much the same way as we have chosen not to have kids because we don’t want to deal with the negatives, you can also choose not to read blog posts by parents complaining about their kids now and then.

As to the post itself; well, I must admit it DOES outline a lot of reasons that I am childfree, but I hope for the sake of the parents on here that it really IS worth it like everyone says. Good luck and stay sane.

By: Jordan

Jordan — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 02:40:08 +0000

This is funny! And sooo true too! =) Either way, I love having children.

And @Christine, I didn’t follow the argument between you and Kim much, but your last post made a lot of sense. If you want to be Childfree, then you can be childfree, but if you want to have kids, have kids.

Don’t put either one down for the choice they make or make up silly acronyms to make fun of their choice.

By: Christine

Christine — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 03:16:17 +0000

Ohh, grammatical error! the last “your” should be “you’re.” If only comment boxes had Grammar-check!

By: Christine

Christine — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 03:10:25 +0000

@kim
I get your message loud and clear. Saying the childfree just don’t and won’t “get it” is condescending and pretentious. Parenting is not meant for everyone, and just because someone isn’t parent-material doesn’t mean they’re immature, selfish, immoral or a child-hater. Qualified for parenthood does not necessarily equal “good person.” It sounds like you’re talking from that bias. “This person is not made for parenting, therefore there is something wrong with him/her.” The implication is that ultimate happiness, joy and fulfillment comes from parenting. Therefore, the childfree will never be truly joyful, happy or fulfilled.

To which I ask what about nuns and priests? Are they unfulfilled? What about Mother Theresa? A nun who has run summer camps in Ethiopia, tutoring programs in the inner city, discernment retreats in college towns, service immersions for alternative Spring Breaks, been mayor of a small town in Mississippi, starts every morning and ends every day praying with her sisters will never know happiness? I know nuns who’ve done all those things, by the way.

I’m going to put on my Catholic hat and now say that ultimate happiness, joy and fulfillment comes from living the life God meant you to live. If you are trying to live life against God’s will for your life, then no, you will not find fulfillment. So if God made you for parenting and you don’t have kids, you will be unhappy, because it’s not God’s will for you. If God made you childfree but you reproduce anyway, you will be unhappy, because it’s not God’s will for you.

I recognize that if you’re not religious, this argument holds no weight for you. Not all the childfree become nuns or priests, true. But my point remains if you live the life your wired to live, you will find wholeness. Not everyone is wired for parenting, and that’s ok. They aren’t doomed to a life of unfulfillment and lacking in meaning.

By: deegee

deegee — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 13:19:24 +0000

Retiring at 45 like I did a year ago (mainly because I am childfree) looks better and better than this miserable daily life.

By: Margaret

Margaret — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 22:39:42 +0000

I laughed for a long time about this one. Refreshing and honest. Good luck with that night of sleep.

By: kim

kim — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 15:17:58 +0000

@Christine – you clearly missed my point. But that’s ok. Like I said, you just don’t (and won’t) get it.
kim´s last blog ..Utah bound

By: Joanna

Joanna — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 03:26:47 +0000

Thank you for re-confirming my childfree lifestyle! Now I’m gonna go have sexy with my husband, sleep for 9 hours straight, book a flight to Bermuda for next weekend, and watch a movie.