Numb

Last night, I drove my family to my in-laws’ house in Pennsylvania, where we planned to spend the next two days before continuing on to Delaware for our much-anticipated annual vacation in Bethany Beach. It was to be our fourth consecutive summer spending a week in a beautiful beach-side house with my wife’s family; the previous three vacations there had easily been my favorite one-week period in each of the respective years during which they took place.

My in-laws were sound asleep when we arrived at around 1:30 this morning, and we were all sound asleep when my father-in-law headed to the gym at around 5:30, before going to work. Shortly after 7 o’clock, my mother-in-law brought the children into the room where I was sleeping, woke me, and asked that I watch them while she and my wife tried to find out what was going on with my father-in-law, who, according to the phone call my wife received, apparently had collapsed while at the gym. My wife and mother-in-law left the house a short while later and headed to the hospital to which my father-in-law had been taken.

“Is Popop going to die, Daddy?” my children asked me.

“No, guys, I don’t think so,” I answered, and I meant it. I was sure everything was going to be fine. “Everybody dies eventually, but I don’t think that’s what’s going to happen, OK? We’ll just wait to hear from Mommy.”

I love my father-in-law. He has been such a huge influence on me (and countless other people), a true mentor, and one of the things I’ve been most looking forward to about moving to Pennsylvania is getting to spend more time with him on a regular basis.

My wife texted me from the emergency room at 9:15 a.m. The first sentence said, “He’s gone, Jon.”

After sobbing uncontrollably in a back room of the house, then vomiting, I pulled myself together, gathered my children in my arms, and told them I had some sad news that I had to share with them.

“Did Popop die, Daddy?” asked my 5-year-old daughter.

“He did, guys,” I choked out, hugging them both tightly as all three of us burst into tears. “I’m so sorry.”

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  1. Posted August 11, 2010 at 11:10 pm | Permalink

    I am so, so sorry.
    Thank you for posting, and just know that we are all thinking of you and your family, and sending good thoughts/vibes/prayers (whatever your preference) your way.

  2. Posted August 11, 2010 at 11:12 pm | Permalink

    I am so sorry for all of your family. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers in the coming days.
    Jeanne
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  3. Posted August 11, 2010 at 11:23 pm | Permalink

    I am so sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.

  4. Posted August 11, 2010 at 11:49 pm | Permalink

    So sorry to hear it. I don’t know you, of course, but even from this brief post, it’s clear you had a special relationship with your father-in-law. You’re in my thoughts.
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  5. Posted August 11, 2010 at 11:59 pm | Permalink

    Oh goodness…How life really does hang in the balance never do we really know.
    Peace and prayers with you all.
    It may be a good thing for your MIL to have you guys nearby.

  6. Posted August 12, 2010 at 12:54 am | Permalink

    Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. So sorry for your loss.
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  7. DIANE SORIANO
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 1:17 am | Permalink

    I just discovered your blog this week and have been checking in religiously. I’m so very sorry to hear about your loss, and fully empathize as we too are dealing with a very sudden and devastating loss. Wish I knew anything to say to ease the pain a bit. Hang in there.

  8. Posted August 12, 2010 at 4:56 am | Permalink

    My thoughts and prayers are with you. I’m so sorry to hear of this unexpected shock.
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  9. Posted August 12, 2010 at 5:23 am | Permalink

    Ah, God. I’m so sorry.
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  10. Sheppitsgal
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 5:32 am | Permalink

    So sorry to hear about this. What a terrible shock.
    My thoughts are with you, mommy scratches, grandma scratches and both junior scratches x

  11. Posted August 12, 2010 at 5:50 am | Permalink

    I am so sorry. I know how much this hurts your whole family. Hold on to each other. You have my deepest sympathy. Peace.
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  12. Posted August 12, 2010 at 6:33 am | Permalink

    Wow, what a horrible, horrible thing to happen. I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with all of you.
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  13. Laura
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 6:40 am | Permalink

    I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when I was 26 and the pain was the most consuming thing I’ve ever felt. Time helps, but for now hold each other close.

  14. JP
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 7:08 am | Permalink

    I’m so sorry for your loss, he sounds like he was very special in your life. The only sliver of a silver lining is that you all were right there for you mother-in-law.

  15. Paige
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 7:43 am | Permalink

    So heartbroken for you and your family. I’m glad you guys are there to be with your MIL. You are in my prayers.

  16. SCW
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 7:57 am | Permalink

    I still don’t remember how stumbled upon your blog, but I have become a fan here and follow you on twitter. I feed you to my work email and your the first thing I read in the morning while the day is still calm..I have a lump in my throat and am fighting back the tears..all that your family has been through the past few months.

    My heart is breaking for you and your family, my prayers/vibes/love and warm hugs from afar are with you all in this time. Hang on to each other. I am so sorry for your loss.

  17. Golden
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 8:00 am | Permalink

    I’m so sorry Jon.
    What was his name?
    My thoughts are with you and your family.

  18. gail
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 8:02 am | Permalink

    Deepest sympathy.

  19. musingegret
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 8:08 am | Permalink

    All of you are in my thoughts today; please accept my heartfelt condolences on this sudden and shocking loss in your world.

  20. Posted August 12, 2010 at 8:12 am | Permalink

    I am so very sorry.
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  21. Posted August 12, 2010 at 8:17 am | Permalink

    Prayers for Wonder Woman and the rest of the family, including you and the kids of course.

  22. Posted August 12, 2010 at 8:25 am | Permalink

    Crying and praying for you and your family.
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  23. Posted August 12, 2010 at 8:26 am | Permalink

    I am so terribly sorry to hear of your loss. I had to tell my girls the same news about their Mawmaw not too long ago – one of the hardest things I’ve had to do. My prayers are with your family.
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  24. Jamaica
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 8:37 am | Permalink

    I am so very, very sorry for your immeasurable loss. Prayer coverings for the entire family are going up.

  25. Kristine N
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 8:40 am | Permalink

    I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to you and your family.

  26. Jessica
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 8:44 am | Permalink

    I’m so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  27. Jackie
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 8:56 am | Permalink

    I’m so sorry for your families loss. Hang in there.

  28. julie
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 9:02 am | Permalink

    No words except I am so sorry for your family and will be thinking of you all and how precious life is.

  29. Posted August 12, 2010 at 9:13 am | Permalink

    I’m so sorry for your loss. We’ll pray for you and light a candle in his name.
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  30. Linda
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 9:32 am | Permalink

    I am so sorry for your loss.
    Sending prayers your way.
    Linda Seattle, WA

  31. Posted August 12, 2010 at 9:53 am | Permalink

    So sorry for your family’s loss. I hope you find comfort in each other and in memories.

  32. Pastor Kathy
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 9:58 am | Permalink

    There are no adequate words for a time like this. Know that you and your family are in many prayers today.

  33. Jeanene
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 10:08 am | Permalink

    So very, very sorry for your entire family.

  34. Erina
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 10:13 am | Permalink

    Cannot make the situation better… but know you’re supported here in blogworld at least. Most heartfelt sympathies for you and your family.

  35. Jill
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 10:17 am | Permalink

    There truly are no words. Sending lots of hugs, love and light to you and your family.

  36. Posted August 12, 2010 at 10:43 am | Permalink

    I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and yours.

  37. Rachel
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 11:25 am | Permalink

    I’m so sorry for your loss

  38. Frannie
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 11:52 am | Permalink

    So very sorry for your father-in-law and all who love him.

  39. StlShel
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 11:54 am | Permalink

    My deepest sympathies on your loss. Your family will be in my prayers.

  40. Posted August 12, 2010 at 12:08 pm | Permalink

    Jon, my thoughts go out to you and your whole family. I hope you know how much your bloggers friends care.
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  41. Posted August 12, 2010 at 12:27 pm | Permalink

    I’m so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts.

  42. Posted August 12, 2010 at 12:28 pm | Permalink

    OMG! I am so sorry to hear this! Please know your family is in our thoughts and prayers.
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  43. kathy
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 12:31 pm | Permalink

    sh*t. that was the first word that went through my mind when I read the entry. I am sorry to hear that on top of all the other stuff (moving, selling, etc) that you have this too. as someone posted above, at least you were there in PA already. prayers being said.
    Kathy

  44. Posted August 12, 2010 at 12:44 pm | Permalink

    How awful, so sorry for you and your family.

  45. Anna
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 12:57 pm | Permalink

    I am so very, very sorry for your loss, your family’s loss. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

  46. Posted August 12, 2010 at 1:15 pm | Permalink

    I am so sorry. The horror of it for yourself and then feeling so much worse because you know people you love hurt too.
    My thoughts are with you.

  47. Dorice
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 1:17 pm | Permalink

    I’m an avid reader of your blog, which I really enjoy. I’m so very sorry for your loss and especially for your wife. Losing a parent is terribly hard. Sometimes I wonder if God/the powers that be (whatever “power” you believe) doesn’t foresee these things and, although not preventing it, makes consessions/arangements to make things easier. You and the scratches family will all be closer to help grandma to get through what will likely be one of the hardest things she’ll ever endure. The loss of your love/soulmate/partner. Sending thoughts of peace and comfort.

    Dorice

  48. Stephanie Z
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 1:59 pm | Permalink

    Long time reader de-lurking to send my condolences to you and your wife and family.

  49. Kelly
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 2:40 pm | Permalink

    I’m so sorry to read this. Thoughts, condolences and prayers to you and your family.

  50. Melissa
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 2:45 pm | Permalink

    I am so very sorry.

  51. Posted August 12, 2010 at 2:45 pm | Permalink

    I’m SO SORRY. No words can take away the hurt, but know that good thoughts are being sent your way and maybe that will bring you some comfort. My sympathies for you and your family.
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  52. Posted August 12, 2010 at 2:48 pm | Permalink

    So sorry for you and yours, Jon. You wrote about this with grace.
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  53. Nancy in Nebraska
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 3:04 pm | Permalink

    What an unexpected loss for you and your family. Prayers and thoughts for your family.

  54. Posted August 12, 2010 at 3:27 pm | Permalink

    You, and your family will be in our thoughts.
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  55. Tricia
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 3:40 pm | Permalink

    Oh my God, I’m so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for your family.

  56. sadie
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 4:37 pm | Permalink

    My condolences to the whole scratches family. It is a blessing that WW & your MIL were there together during this tragedy. As others have stated, it will be so helpful to your MIL to have the scratches family nearby to help her as she heals. WW’s family is being lifted up in prayer by many…I am so sorry for your loss!

  57. Posted August 12, 2010 at 5:24 pm | Permalink

    This reminds me a lot of when my BIL died unexpectedly and much too young. Left home to go play golf on a pretty day off, and by mid-afternoon I was holding my sister while they handed her his personal effects.

    I remember at some point thinking, about Ken, that if God/whoever/whatever had given him a choice of dying in bed and having his wife discover him in the morning, collapsing and dying in front of his family, or dying while playing a round of solo golf, he’d have chosen what actually happened. I hope that can comfort you in some way, and I can’t help but think he might be grateful too that none of you who love him best had to watch it happen, especially Zan and Jayna.

    My prayers are added to those of others for strength and comfort to all of you.
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  58. Stephanie
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 6:00 pm | Permalink

    I am so sorry for your loss. If there was anything I could do, I would. If there is, let me know.

  59. JB
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 6:12 pm | Permalink

    I’m so, so, sorry for your loss.

    I don’t know if this helps or not (if not, feel free to internet-slap me), but it doesn’t matter if a loved one’s passing is ‘sudden’ or drawn-out, it hurts just the same. That is: “There’s no “good” way to pass away.”
    I’ve gone through several of these situations, and that tidbit seemed to (ever-so-slightly) comfort me, though YMMV. Again, I’m so sorry.

  60. Posted August 12, 2010 at 7:17 pm | Permalink

    I’m so, so sorry. Condolences and hugs to the whole family.

  61. Jamie, Mom of 3
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 7:22 pm | Permalink

    So very sorry for your loss, sounds like he was a special man…

  62. Posted August 12, 2010 at 7:47 pm | Permalink

    I will keep you and allyour family in my thoughts and prayers in the days and weeks to come.
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  63. Posted August 12, 2010 at 9:30 pm | Permalink

    Thank you all.

  64. Posted August 12, 2010 at 9:36 pm | Permalink

    I’m so very sorry. I will be thinking of you and all of your family.
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  65. Terrie
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 10:03 pm | Permalink

    I’m so very sorry for your and your family…my family just experienced a similar devistating loss this past week…and the only advice I can offer is just to be there for one another. I will keep you in my thoughts…

  66. Marla Gallaher
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 12:06 am | Permalink

    I am so sorry for your loss. Keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers!

  67. Posted August 13, 2010 at 12:32 am | Permalink

    Hugs. Lots of them.

  68. Michele J
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 9:59 am | Permalink

    Hugs, love and prayers from our family to yours. I’m not too far away if there is anything I can do. (I’m a married, SAHM to 5yo daughter, grew up in suburb of Philly, not psycho most days so seriously…consider me an available ear or sitter or even a place your family can get away. I live near the shore and the beach is 10 minutes away. e-mail me or message me on FB I’m on your page) No offense if you don’t.
    You are in our thoughts…
    MJC

  69. Posted August 13, 2010 at 9:59 am | Permalink

    I don’t know you or your family; I only just found your blog. But now I’m crying too. My sympathies and thoughts are with you and yours.
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  70. Elisha
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 10:09 am | Permalink

    My thoughts and prayers are with your family. I lost my dad while we were on vacation at my parents’ house last year. It was horrible, but looking back, I am so glad I was there to be with my mom and brothers.

  71. Posted August 13, 2010 at 10:17 am | Permalink

    I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father-in-law. I know, from reading your posts, that he and your mother-in-law are both very important to you and your children. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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  72. MontanaMom
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 10:37 am | Permalink

    Oh Jon….I’m so sorry! Please know we’re thinking of you all. Hold tight to your memories for they will long sustain you.

    ~Cynthia in Montana….loyal reader, lousy commenter 🙂

  73. Ali
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 10:45 am | Permalink

    So, so sorry about your father in law.

  74. Andrea
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 11:17 am | Permalink

    I love you all and you have been on my mind every second of everyday since I got your call Wednesday morning….my heart is aching.

  75. Posted August 13, 2010 at 11:35 am | Permalink

    I am so so sorry for your loss Jon. My sincerest sympathy to you and your family. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
    Love, hugs and tears, -Cheryl

  76. Eric Bunde
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 11:36 am | Permalink

    Sorry for your families loss Jon.

  77. Posted August 13, 2010 at 12:21 pm | Permalink

    I’m sorry for your family’s loss. You are all in my thoughts & prayers during this difficult time.

  78. Lojo
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 12:22 pm | Permalink

    I, too, am so sorry. So sad whe important people in our lives can’t stay with us forever. Being numb is OK, but feeling it, too, will be ok.

  79. Sarah
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 12:40 pm | Permalink

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this very difficult time. I am so sorry for your loss.

  80. Cindy
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 12:55 pm | Permalink

    I am so sorry Jon….I can’t imagine. for all of your pain and loss.

  81. chancesmom
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 1:58 pm | Permalink

    So very sorry to read this. Your family will be in thoughts and prayers.

  82. Posted August 13, 2010 at 2:08 pm | Permalink

    I’m so sorry for your family’s loss, Jon…
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  83. Matt
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 2:40 pm | Permalink

    Jon- so sorry for you and the entire family, lots of love coming your way from NH.

  84. Posted August 13, 2010 at 3:36 pm | Permalink

    Deepest condolences to you and your wife and the families. Words are inadequate but know that there are many, many people who you don’t know except for the ‘web who are crying with you today.
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  85. Posted August 13, 2010 at 4:25 pm | Permalink

    Thinking of you.
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  86. Delicia
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 4:52 pm | Permalink

    Honestly I don’t know you, I just today found this blog from Bloggess’s site.. and I’m sitting here in tears for the terrible loss your family has suffered. I hope once the grief lessons you continue to share your happy memories of your father-in-law with your children as they grow so they can remember him with love as you do.

  87. Milissa
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 6:51 pm | Permalink

    You don’t know many of the people who read and post on this site, but I sure hope you can feel the prayers and the thoughts random strangers are sending your family’s way. Thank God your father-in-law did not have to suffer, and thank God he has a family who loved and cared about him so much and will miss him even more.

  88. Posted August 13, 2010 at 7:34 pm | Permalink

    I am so, so sorry for your loss. My heart is with you and your family at this time.

  89. Melanie
    Posted August 13, 2010 at 7:47 pm | Permalink

    Oh, Jon. My heart breaks for you all tonight. I’m so very sorry – I don’t know you or your family in person (although I do take it personally that you left Mass….), but I can feel the pain in your words here.

    There are a million pat, stupid things to say at a time like this…. but I’ll just leave it at how very, deeply sorry I am for you and the family.

    Hugs to you all.

  90. Posted August 13, 2010 at 8:52 pm | Permalink

    Again, thank you all for your support. I appreciate it.

  91. Posted August 13, 2010 at 9:14 pm | Permalink

    I don’t know you, and I’m just an occasional lurker around here, but I stumbled across this and had to say that I’m sorry for your loss. I’m just so damn sorry. My heart broke reading this post. You and your family are in my thoughts at this difficult time.
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  92. Posted August 14, 2010 at 8:47 am | Permalink

    my thoughts and prayers go out to yr family xo
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  93. ABCfibi
    Posted August 14, 2010 at 8:58 am | Permalink

    I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how hard it was to tell your children. I wish I had some magical healing words to take away the pain your family feels. My only advice, hug each other a lot.

  94. Posted August 14, 2010 at 4:31 pm | Permalink

    I’m sorry, Jon.

    Good thoughts and love for you, and your very sweet and lovely wife, your mom-in-law, and your kids.

    All I can offer is the strength that comes from knowing that someone thinking support your way, but I offer it freely.
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  95. Irene Thelen
    Posted August 14, 2010 at 9:47 pm | Permalink

    Take care, Jon, life can suck sometimes! Many, many folks are thinking of you. When you get over the grieving, you might find yourself sharing a laugh or smile about your father-in-law. I think that’s his spirit visiting you. Corny, but that’s my theory. I’ll send good thoughts your way!!!

  96. Kristen in Cali
    Posted August 15, 2010 at 12:29 am | Permalink

    Jon ~ I am de-lurking for this one.
    I’ve read every post you’ve every written but never commented, even tho you make me laugh so hard I cry. (We seem to have the same temperment when stuck with the kids All. Day. Long.) But today I wanted you to know, that I am holding you, WW, Zan, Jayna and of course your MIL in my heart. I wish I had some magic to take away the pain. All I can offer is my good thoughts & support. May things go the best they can, in a terrible time like this. Much love to you all….

  97. Lee
    Posted August 15, 2010 at 7:07 am | Permalink

    No words. Sending hugs and prayers.

  98. B.
    Posted August 15, 2010 at 9:36 am | Permalink

    Long time reader…so very very sorry, and keeping you, your kids, your wife and her family all in my thoughts.

  99. Posted August 15, 2010 at 12:35 pm | Permalink

    I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers ascending for you all.

  100. Posted August 15, 2010 at 4:58 pm | Permalink

    Wow, Jon, I am so sorry. Sending kind thoughts to you and your family.

  101. Jerri Popovich
    Posted August 15, 2010 at 8:40 pm | Permalink

    I’m so sorry for your loss. This post just knocked me for a loop…..I unexpectedly lost my dad on 8/1, and I’m just starting to accept it. It all seems surreal. I hope you can all lean on each other to get through this, and remember that other people really do care.

  102. Posted August 15, 2010 at 8:49 pm | Permalink

    I’m sorry to hear this…didn’t realize from the couple tweets I saw what had happened. Now I feel like an ass! I hope your wife is doing as well as can be expected and that y’all have lots of friends, family, new neighbors, etc. who are available and helpful right now.
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    • Posted August 15, 2010 at 9:08 pm | Permalink

      Dude, don’t feel like an ass … not over this, anyway; I know you didn’t know.

      I’m sure there are plenty other perfectly good reasons for you to feel like an ass that have nothing to do with me; focus on those instead, if you must. 😉

  103. Posted August 15, 2010 at 9:23 pm | Permalink

    OH NO!

    I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  104. Janet
    Posted August 15, 2010 at 9:32 pm | Permalink

    🙁 That’s all…so terribly sorry.

  105. Cornish Lass
    Posted August 16, 2010 at 2:01 am | Permalink

    I am so sorry to read this post this morning. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  106. Posted August 16, 2010 at 3:20 am | Permalink

    so so sorry. i’m thinking about all of you.
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  107. Audrey
    Posted August 16, 2010 at 7:48 am | Permalink

    I had an instant drop in my stomach reading this post. I can only imagine the impact it had on your family.

    As the numbness subsides, know that there are a LOT of people out here sending comforting thoughts your way. And I being one.

  108. Posted August 16, 2010 at 8:13 am | Permalink

    OMG Jon…when I tweeted you earlier during the weekend, and said my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, I had not read your blog…I just wanted yall to know this Texas woman was thinking about yall.

    I’m so so so sorry for your loss!! As you know, I lost my dad 20 months ago…and it was the hardest thing I have been through…but I also lost my fater-in-law two years before that…and I loved him dearly!! So…I know how you are feeling and how WW is feeling… Please feel free to give her my email address…and if she wants to “talk” to someone that she does not know but knows EXACTLY how she feels…let her know that I am a great “listener”…

    Again, my thoughts and prayers are with eachof you during this time. BTW-we have a place for children here in Houston that helps them cope with the loss of someone close to them. It’s called Bo’s Place…and they are WONDERFUL!!! I know that there HAS to be a place there that’s similar to Bo’s Place…just know that Zan and Janna might feel more comfortable talking about this to someone else other than yall… Karson talked to me about lossing my F-I-L and my dad…but she was SO CLOSE to my dad, that Bo’s Place helped her some too…BUT…my ex and I were also going through our divorce at the time my dad passed away…so it helped her with that too… Just a little FYI…
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  109. Posted August 16, 2010 at 8:17 am | Permalink

    Sorry – I just realized I misspelled Jayna…my niece’s is spelled Janna…

    Again…((((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))) from Texas!!!
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  110. Posted August 16, 2010 at 10:31 am | Permalink

    My heart goes out to you and yours. (((hugs)))
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  111. Lindsay
    Posted August 16, 2010 at 1:36 pm | Permalink

    Whoa. I am so, so very sorry to hear this.

    Not sure what to say…just…keep breathing. And love on your little ones. And try to get some sleep.

    Thinking of you.

  112. Cheri
    Posted August 16, 2010 at 1:59 pm | Permalink

    Oh man!
    I’m so sorry for your loss! Please know I will keep you, your wife and family in my prayers!!

  113. Posted August 16, 2010 at 3:03 pm | Permalink

    Damn! Just Damn. I am so sorry.
    Pam

  114. Posted August 16, 2010 at 4:05 pm | Permalink

    I’m so sorry for your loss.
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  115. Posted August 16, 2010 at 4:45 pm | Permalink

    I’m so sorry. Sending you hugs. And booze.

    Much love, sweet friend.
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  116. Posted August 17, 2010 at 12:34 pm | Permalink

    I’m so sorry. It’s comforting that you were all there together. Life is such a mystery. We just never know what the next few moments will bring. Hold each other close as you all stumble through this together.
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  117. Julie
    Posted August 17, 2010 at 1:07 pm | Permalink

    I am so, so very sorry for your loss, Jon.
    Keeping you and your family in my heart and sending hugs your way.

    ~Julie

  118. Catherine
    Posted August 17, 2010 at 2:29 pm | Permalink

    Jon, my heart and thoughts go out to all of you. Death is never easy to make sense of and having small children to explain it too doesn’t make the situation any easier.
    Cath

  119. Posted August 17, 2010 at 8:48 pm | Permalink

    Daddy Scratches….

    Please accept mine and my families condolences for your and Mommyscratches loss. Words can not express nor can feelings express what you and your family are going through.
    Peace be with you and your family.
    God Bless!

  120. Bratgirl
    Posted August 17, 2010 at 9:24 pm | Permalink

    So very sorry for your loss. May God be with you and your family.

  121. Elizabeth
    Posted August 17, 2010 at 11:06 pm | Permalink

    I’ve laughed out loud at several of your blog entries…this is the first to bring tears to my eyes. I am terribly sorry for your loss.

  122. Roxanne
    Posted August 18, 2010 at 9:54 am | Permalink

    Thinking of you and your family.

  123. Alice
    Posted August 18, 2010 at 12:16 pm | Permalink

    I lost both parents to different natural causes the same night a few years ago, and know that this is a terrible time for your family. The shock wears off, but the grief stays for a long time. Take care of yourself — they all need you now.

  124. Deb Mc
    Posted August 18, 2010 at 1:26 pm | Permalink

    Jon-just saw this-I am so sorry for your loss. You guys are having the year from h*ll. Wishing you and yours peace in the days to come.

  125. Posted August 18, 2010 at 7:21 pm | Permalink

    Im so sorry. We have lost 2 family members in the month of July. Its hard for anyone to deal with, let alone small children.

    You and your family are in my thoughts.

  126. Mary Lee
    Posted August 18, 2010 at 9:24 pm | Permalink

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  127. Posted August 19, 2010 at 8:27 am | Permalink

    aww the first post I read here and I have a tear in my eye. I am sorry you lost a friend and a member of your family xx

  128. BeckieS
    Posted August 19, 2010 at 9:43 am | Permalink

    I am terribly sorry for your loss and all the heartache it brings. I pray for comfort and peace during this time of great sorrow.

  129. Maryann McGrail
    Posted August 19, 2010 at 12:38 pm | Permalink

    Deepest sympathies…take care…

  130. Posted August 19, 2010 at 2:25 pm | Permalink

    I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. I’m saying a prayer for you all.
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  131. Posted August 19, 2010 at 2:52 pm | Permalink

    I wish there was something I could say to make things less numb. I will hold you and your family in my thoughts during this heartbreaking time.
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  132. Posted August 20, 2010 at 1:29 am | Permalink

    My heart aches for you and your family. It is clear that your internet family is holding you up and sending you all our love and support. I know nothing is really enough, but hopefully it helps a little.

  133. Posted August 20, 2010 at 10:31 am | Permalink

    wow..i saved your blog long ago because it made me laugh and we used to have a running joke with my dad about ‘going to scratch!’ Anyway, I was just sitting here looking for something I bookmarked and stumbled across your blog! I figured I could use a good laugh but who knew I had a good cry coming! We lost my dad just as suddenly in the beginning of the year and it feels like yesterday. We have three small children (5 and under) and I feel your pain. Please extend my sympathies to your wife, children and of course your dear mother-in-law. I know the pain all to well! I felt like a 5 year old child the night we lost my dad! Here I am bawling…I am sure your father-in-law was a great man! I know first-hand that he will live through all of you. Every day you will be reminded of him and as the months go on, the memories will fill you with happiness. Someone told me once to look for signs because my dad will always be with us and man…there are signs everywhere!! Stay strong for your wife because the next couple weeks are going to be horrible!! Soooo sorry for the loss!!

  134. Sandy H
    Posted August 20, 2010 at 10:45 am | Permalink

    crud, that sucks. I’ll be thinking of you and your family; I can’t imagine the pain you all are going through, and the children especially. My family’s thoughts are with yours.

  135. Shannon
    Posted August 20, 2010 at 9:13 pm | Permalink

    Thoughts and prayers for you and yours… so very sorry for your loss

  136. Posted August 20, 2010 at 11:29 pm | Permalink

    Oh gosh…I’m so very sorry.
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  137. Linette
    Posted August 22, 2010 at 12:09 am | Permalink

    This is the first time I have read here and wanted to pass on my condolences to you, your wife, your mother-in-law and the rest of your family! Losing a well loved and respected member of your family is extremely tough! Prayers!!

  138. Pamela
    Posted August 24, 2010 at 1:49 am | Permalink

    I am sorry to hear of your loss and my deepest sympathies go out to you and your family. The loss of a family member is never ever easy. I lost my younger brother this year and nothing really helps ease the pain in the beginning, but sharing your wonderful memories with those around you may bring comfort to you, your wife, and your family members. Peace be with you.

  139. Posted August 24, 2010 at 8:23 am | Permalink

    Oh, I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife’s family today.
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  140. Beth
    Posted August 25, 2010 at 1:05 pm | Permalink

    I know it’s been said before, but I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve been following your blog for about a year now, and I appreciate the way you’ve shared your life and your family with us.

  141. Posted August 25, 2010 at 6:58 pm | Permalink

    I am really sorry. (Those words look so pitiful and inadequate but it’s all I’ve got.)

  142. Rachael L
    Posted August 26, 2010 at 2:29 pm | Permalink

    I am not an avid reader/follower of you yet, as this is the first time I have been to your blog (followed your smurf comment on a PW photoshop post). I just wanted to send condolences for your loss.

  143. Janr
    Posted August 29, 2010 at 3:29 am | Permalink

    Oh man. What a sh*tty thing to happen. I was hoping for you & your family’s sake that things would begin to improve once you move. But I guess that plan will on ice for a little while. Condolences to you & your family from a long time intermittent reader.

  144. Gail K.
    Posted August 30, 2010 at 9:02 am | Permalink

    Jon, Wonder Woman, kids and Mom of Wonder Woman,
    of course there are no words to express how sorry I am. Thinking of all of you and hoping your memories of Poppop will help you through the coming days.

    Gail

  145. Catherine McP
    Posted September 2, 2010 at 7:20 pm | Permalink

    Oh man, I am soo sorry for all you guys.

  146. Posted September 5, 2010 at 8:22 am | Permalink

    So sorry for your family’s loss.
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